Marie Elaina, “My son’s father just walked out and never looked back. I made sure he knew none of it was about him. Being left, did not define his value. It was about his father’s capacity to love, and not about anything he lacked or deserved.
I secretly feel his father’s abandonment shaped him into the strong, determined, dedicated man he has become. Maybe it wasn’t the easiest way to be shown how to be a man, but it was what he was given.” Tip 7
I agree. I also feel Michael’s paternal abandonment shaped him for the better. Through attempted explanations and ongoing conversation, at an early age Michael began to learn the qualities of a man, a father. The teachable moments allowed him to quickly formulate what kind of person he wanted to be.
Michael learned the value of responsibility, and the pain of irresponsibility. Of course, I too can think of easier ways to demonstrate such lessons; however, maybe none as powerful!
It may have been the knowledge in Marie Elaina’s Tip #10, on breathing, which got me through my personal feelings of abandonment as well as my projected hurt for Michael. Breathing is underrated!
So many people encourage a deep breathe through a difficult time. It’s become trite! It may sound trite, but it is so effective. Deep breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth, the deeper the better, are guaranteed to help!
I still forget to breathe on occasion. I continue to be surprised by the power I can gain simply by capturing, and controlling, my breath. It is a free, readily accessible, and a high effective technique. I can’t be reminded of breathing enough!
Thanks Marie Elaina! Just as it was in high school, we don’t spend enough time together!