Karen, “Make them work for special things they want. It doesn’t hurt them to work a little. They will appreciate what they’ve acquired so much more.” Tip #9
I too applied the ‘make-them-work -for-it’ model Karen mentions in tip #9. I think it’s a wonderful approach and has many layers in terms of teaching.
As soon as Michael received allowance he started to pay for special things. If he wanted something, I felt was a bit indulgent, I would ask, “What are you willing to pay?” From there, I could gauge importance and interest. It’s a great exercise building critical thinking, responsibility, cooperation, prioritizing, forethought, and independence.
Michael quickly learned the art of negotiation, a skill is highly developed today. At times I would agree to pay ½, sometimes all, depending on his argument.
Michael did work for the special things, for most things actually. Even just last week, there was something I wanted him to try, it was very expensive. I offered to pay ½. He laughed and said, “It’s ok Mom, if I want it I’ll pay.”
He’s all grown up now!