Brad is a Dad who’s spent his career helping others while ensure his two children had all the love and opportunity they needed to thrive. In his professional life, working in the field of Corrections and Justice, Brad has learned the value of care and compassion. He knows love makes a difference.
An adoring Dad and family man, Brad’s ability to care extends beyond those he loves in his immediate family. All of Brad’s interactions come from a place of respect and compassion.
He is confident his children will continue his legacy of kindness. Brad is proud of their contributions and the effort they have given to their lives, and in the larger community. Watching them build their future is one of his greatest joys.
Now his children are in their 20’s, Brad still finds time to worry. Some say, small kids small worries. Brad continues to watch with bated breath hoping his children will always be safe. His dream for them is good health, prosperity, continued compassion for others.
Brad, “Care about them! Cherish them. It goes by extremely fast.” Tip 6
I’ve been fortunate to have had some meaningful conversations with Brad about the importance of family and his love for his children. It’s as though I can see his heart fill when he speaks of being a Dad and all Fatherhood means to him.
In Brad’s sixth tip he highlights “care” and “cherish.” Those actions seem like a given, an automatic for parents. I would argue, care and cherish are only assumed by those who have given it or have received it. For some, who have gone through life without feeling cherished or cared for, it is a beautiful strong point duly noted.
Intact families, and engaged Dads, might believe, “All Dads care for and cherish their kids.” I assert, all Dads do not care for and cherish their children.
Sadly, some Dads do not feel caring and cherishing is a part of “the job.” Some Dads may not know how to care for or cherish. Other Dads may assign that as a maternal role.
Then there are some cases Dads are not permitted to care for and cherish for any number of reasons. Family breakdown, geographical separation, mental illness, addiction, or a general and complete inability to do so may impede a Dad from this level of involvement.
When I read the word cherish it stopped me instantly. The gravity of the word cherish is not lost on me.
I hope care for, and cherish, is a given to all Dads. I hope if it isn’t a given, Dads will to pause and consider what it means to cherish and be cherished.
Cherish is defined as, protect lovingly, hold dear and keep in one’s mind. Defining this world brought tears to my eyes. I can’t imagine what it would have meant to have felt cherished by my Dad, how would my life have different, how would I have been different.
On behalf of those of us who did not feel cared for and cherished, please reflect on the meaning and the action required to convey and convince a child they are cherished. If your children feel cherished by you, they will expect to be cherished by others.
Brad’s additional tips provide ideas as to how you can demonstrate to your children they are loved and cherished. It doesn’t seem too complicated to achieve but does not happen without deliberate and loving effort.
I cherish Brad’s involvement in this book, and his service to his community and his family. In cherishing his children, Brad has given himself, and them, a gift that is not available to everyone.
Much love to you and your cherished families.