Esther is a special Mom to me, because she brought me my friend Claire. I love Claire for many reasons. My favorite thing about her is she’s helped me to believe in myself by believing in me. What’s not to love about a friend like that?
Today, in memory of Esther, I came to learn more about the roots of my friend Claire and her many admirable traits. I’m honored to share Esther’s best parenting tips, just a small piece of a great legacy
- Be consistent
- Honesty, will instill trust.
- Love. It’s important they know you love them.
- Firmness. Be firm in your decisions.
- Sense of humor
- Good values
- Seek good friends, those with good morals and those that will be a good influence.
- Set goals high.
- Respect your elders.
Esther, “Seek good friends, those with good morals and those that will be a good influence.” Tip #8
Esther at age 85, as regal as she is cute, as she is beautiful. Esther is simply stated, yet profound.
It was fun to see Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn and Esther all had something in common. They each emphasis the importance of the peer group, as in Esther’s Tip #8. I also have come to learn, peers are key.
As it’s said, you can only go as high as those around you. To quote Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”
In recalling my early days, days of limited coping skills and even less parenting skills, I reflected on my peer group. It was as dreadful as my skillset.
It is now clear to me, to reach another level of behavior, in life, a higher level – changing my peer group was crucial for Michael’s development, as well my own. This was to be one of my most challenging endeavors.
Letting go of friends and building a new network seemed like an unfair and impossible request. My therapist, insisted it must happened, and I insisted she did not understand.
Well, of course she understood. Of course it had to happen.
My son, could never be the man he is today had I continued in that peer group. I could never be the woman, or the Mother, I am today had I continued in that group.
As Esther stated, you must find “…those with good morals and those of good influence.” These people are easier to find now than they were 25 years ago. I’m happy to say, today I am surrounded by such people!
It is true, a strong peer group makes all the difference.